If we live truly, we shall truly live.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Connecting through relationships
Leaders are effective when people listen to them. Many writers and researchers have written a lot about leadership. Many studies identify scientifically what leadership is and what traits, behaviors, and responsibilities are “research-based” and proven to have “effects” and impacts on certain behaviors (like student achievement). What makes a leader effective is not answered or described in one post, one log, one blog, one answer. Unless the writer suggests that RELATIONSHIPS – two-way, respectful, nurturing, responsible, appropriate, mutually beneficial, and based upon common beliefs and vision – can help support an assertion that leaders are effective when they build relationships and when their leadership is built upon the foundation that people-centeredness is at least a hugely impactful starting point for effective leadership.
Research on leadership essentially indicates that the most important attributes of a leader involves relationships. Listening to others, involving others, building capacity in others based upon their interests and skills, all of
this is essential for a leader to be successful. Building professional relationships is foundational for all leaders who hope to find success in education, management, organizations, any industry where people are involved. The best advice I could give to an aspiring leader is to LISTEN to people involved; build RELATIONSHIPS with those around you; show RESPECT to all, and value the honor, dignity, and worth of all individuals!!
Over the years I have taught leaders how to select people strong in relationship building skills. I have extensive national experiences in staff selection through my work as a senior executive consultant for a national human capital development company as well as many years as a practitioner “scientist” in the development and selection of talent. I have discovered through feedback surveys and observations that it is very rewarding when you can participate in the selection of excellent teachers with peers who are trained in the research based methods. It is very rewarding to recommend for hire hundreds teachers, administrators, and staff with whom you have worked for four years. It is very rewarding to participate in what works in education – to join with those who “do” in education. As a public educator I am biased … yet it is still rewarding and affirming to be part of systems that truly do work, are measurable, and make lasting impacts on student learning. This is an example of leadership that is meaningful.
On July 1, 2010, I joined a new school district, my third in 18 years; I spent 4 years in my first district, and 13 years in my second district. On July 1, 2010, I became the 4th superintendent at that school district since 1945 – the 4th superintendent in 65 years – an impressive and humbling fact. In the one school, PK-8 school district where I was honored and excited to work. In 2013 I became the superintendent of schools in DPS109 where,
since 1840 and 1847 respectively, we have been proudly educating children! I am humbled by the responsibility and the possibility of leadership. I take great pride in coaching, guiding, leading and sustaining leadership and education with the amazing educators with whom I work each and every day.
To that end, my entry into the new school district was framed by listening, learning, meeting, understanding, examining, observing, reviewing, interacting, visiting, … one could even say … “leading”. Transition and change are challenging concepts for many … Leadership is not easy, leadership is rewarding, leadership is not making everyone happy, leadership is staying focused and building successful relationships. We build relationships in order to Engage, Inspire, Empower each child, each teacher, each staff member, each parent – everyone – each and every day!
As part of my personal philosophy of leadership, RELATIONSHIPS and relationship building are cornerstones of any successful leadership experience.